Dealing with an uncooperative spouse during the divorce process

During the divorce process, spouses who find that their partner is uncooperative should try and focus on the future and keep detailed records.

Many spouses in Ohio find that during the divorce process, their future ex-spouse suddenly becomes extremely uncooperative and difficult to work with. According to Psychology Today, the stress the divorce process induces can cause people to function at a more primitive level and in a less healthy manner. Spouses who are struggling with their partner's behavior during their divorce can use several strategies to minimize stress and ensure their marriage dissolves with few delays.

Coping strategies

When a future ex-spouse spouse is uncooperative, they may attempt to fabricate the truth during divorce proceedings. To remedy this, spouses should document everything in writing, states The Huffington Post. For example, spouses should keep detailed records of any money spent on their children, any funds withdrawn from joint bank accounts and any other important financial matters. Spouses should also document any communications they have with their partner to prevent difficulties in case any questions arise regarding the history of events.

Spouses may attempt to make the divorce process difficult for their partner because they are trying to hold on to what is in their past. While divorce is painful, it can be even more difficult if the focus is not on moving forward. Even if their partner continually tries to create guilt and put blame on them for situations in the past, spouses can diffuse these issues by remembering the positive outcomes of their divorce.

If children are involved

While divorce-related issues may subside after the divorce agreement is finalized, couples with children may find that they continue because they have to remain in constant contact with each other. To alleviate this tension, The Huffington Post recommends that divorced parents take the following steps:

  • Communicate with their ex-spouse when they do something that is upsetting in a rational and unemotional manner.
  • Request a confirmation from their ex-spouse about scheduled visitation times to avoid miscommunication.
  • Make a secondary plan for their children in case their ex-spouse fails to show up or follow through on a scheduled visitation time.
  • Keep detailed records of the visitation schedule, miscommunications and missed visits.
  • Try to limit any modifications to the child custody plan to see if the arrangements actually work and benefit their children.

Parents should keep in mind that they cannot control the actions of their current or future ex-spouse and that the only thing that they can take charge of is how they react to these difficult situations. If you and your spouse are considering divorce, turn to an attorney who can potentially neutralize difficult situations and ensure the divorce process resolves as amicably as possible.

Keywords: divorce, children