Shared parenting is preferred among many family law advocates as being beneficial for children and parents alike.
Divorce is a difficult time for anyone. Even if you and your spouse can maintain an amicable relationship throughout the process of your marriage ending, there is still stress inherent in dividing assets, setting up two distinct households where there were previously only one, deciding who gets the marital home and simply starting your lives anew. These stresses are magnified – and the stakes are raised greatly – when children are involved.
The great majority of divorcing parents simply want to do what is best for their children. However, issues arise when you and your soon-to-be-former-spouse cannot agree on what “best” really means. That, when added to the emotions that tend to creep up during a split, can lead parents to make hasty decisions that end up hurting their children in the end.
This is where a skilled divorce attorney with experience in the concept of “shared parenting” can be invaluable. An attorney who understands the vital role that both parents play in their child’s lives, and who is willing to put in the work necessary to reach solutions that allow each parent to remain a part of the child’s life after the divorce, is often your best ally as you move forward with ending your marriage to a person with whom you still share a life-long connection through your children.
What is “shared parenting,” and how is it different from traditional custody options?
Essentially, “shared parenting” is a legal concept that embraces the fact that children who grow up with both parents involved in their lives tend to be better adjusted, better educated and better poised to take advantage of life opportunities than those who are raised solely by a single parent. Shared parenting involves divorcing parents working together to co-parent after their marriage ends, whether that be with one parent having sole residential custody and the other enjoying ample parenting time with the children or the children spending equal time with each parent.
Traditional custody models tend to be more adversarial in nature, with one parent “winning” sole custody of the children and the other being relegated to a set amount of “visitation” with them on a daily, weekly, bi-weekly or monthly basis. While parents have always been free to modify custody arrangements, unless they had an amicable relationship, it was more likely that they would accept the roles they had been assigned. Shared parenting encourages more collaboration and cooperation between the parents as they are empowered to realize the importance they have in their children’s lives.
To learn more about the tenets of shared parenting – and to determine if shared parenting is in the best interests of your children – speak with an experienced family law attorney at the Dayton office of Altick and Corwin, L.P.A.
Keywords: divorce, child custody, shared parenting